Is it MORE insulting for a girl when her boyfriend leaves her for a guy?

With the wild popularity of the Philippine drama series My Husband's Lover (who is a guy), came a string of comments, perceived and imagined, saying that it is a lot more insulting if a straight woman's spouse/lover leaves the relationship for a guy and not another woman (or a woman and not another guy, from the straight man's perspective).

From: www.bubblews.com

I totally understand the insult which comes from infidelity. You gave your trust, he/she broke it. It is painful. It is your fragile self, your truest self, thrown away by the one you love after you have given it wholeheartedly. To that extent, I understand. I sympathize even. No one has the right to cheat on another. But what I find stupid and unacceptable is when people say it's much more insulting when it turns out that his/her lover is homosexual. 

"Mas okay na kapag babae ang pinagpalit sa akin kaysa sa kapwa niyang lalaki," said an imaginary ginang in my mind. (But, to be fair, I have been hearing this even outside my own imagination.)

This notion is wrong for a couple of reasons: first, because it is never okay to cheat, and second, this comes from the implicit idea that gays, lesbians, and bisexuals are inferior to straight men and women. 

One's manhood or womanhood gets damaged if a lover cheats. But, it is more devastated when a lover cheats with an LGBT. Clearly, there is a double standard, and an unacceptable one at that. We say that all men and women are born or "created" (whatever) equal regardless of race, belief, and gender. Yet in the same breath we say that it is unacceptable, immoral, insulting if one is in a gay relationship. Then what does it mean to be homosexual and at the same time equal in dignity with heterosexual people?! 

Ginang/Ginoo, the next time you comment about your favorite drama because of the controversy and thrill that you get from its novelty, and not from the more important lesson that homosexuality is inevitable, better make sure you don't use your manhood/womanhood first before your brain.  

Throwback: A professor who's always late, irate classmates, and a very irritating and dishonest guy

DISCLAIMER: Story may have been subject to minor modifications brought about by time. ALSO, you may claim that this is fiction for all I care. 

We once had a Marketing prof who always comes to class late, for at least thirty minutes. Irate classmates were everywhere. Why he is always tardy is still a mystery to me, and I'm perfectly happy not knowing. Attendance in class isn't always a prerequisite for effective learning anyway. So, I didn't really care. Or I still don't know because no one really did try to know despite the apparent fury of many. Well, whatever.

Anyway, the main story is about this guy who spearheaded writing a letter of complaint addressed to our prof (not sure if there was a letter to our prof's boss which was more appropriate). Accordingly, it was not his sole idea but there needs to be a figurehead. He gathered the signatures of classmates and delivered it to the prof. I specifically remember his pompous declaration that what the prof was doing was not right and should be dealt with properly, even if that prof holds our grades. I must say, I was impressed.

After a day or two, there was a buzz among my classmates that the prof was furious and threatened to be a lot stricter with grades and class policies, e.g. no more bonus points at the end of the sem. Of course, everybody got scared. Who does not treasure bonus points? But despite the understandable fear, I find this hell irritating: that guy, who spearheaded everything written above, emphasizing that it was actually not his idea, but just an idea that was eagerly pushed to him by other classmates, because these classmates did not have the courage to chin-up. 

And I remember that name he mentioned.

But wait, there's more. 

What was more hell irritating? His declared irritation with those who pushed him to do it.

Leadership = defending the collective voice chin-up only when it is safe for that chin, and when it's not safe, blame the people you represent.